The on/off switch vs. the dimmer: finding your speaking style

Written By Stefanie Van Moen

Have you ever felt like you need to “perform” when presenting? Many speakers flip an on/off switch, adopting a stage persona that feels disconnected from their true selves.

But there’s a better approach: the dimmer switch.

 
 

What’s the Difference?

  • On/Off Switch:

    • Drains energy by forcing a high-performance mode.

    • Risks alienating audiences with inauthenticity.

  • Dimmer Switch:

    • Allows you to adjust energy and tone based on the room.

    • Keeps you authentic while engaging effectively.

Real-Life Example

During a coaching session, a speaker shared how exhausting it was to “turn on” for presentations. We worked on techniques to let her personality shine without overdoing it. The result? A more natural, connected delivery.

Tips for Using the Dimmer Switch

  1. Gauge Your Audience
    A corporate boardroom may require a different energy level than a startup pitch.

  2. Practice Flexible Energy
    Prepare for a range of tones, from formal to conversational.

  3. Stay Grounded
    Use personal stories or insights to maintain authenticity.

By using the dimmer, you can light up any stage—without burning out.

 

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Stefanie Van Moen

With a background in speech and language therapy, Stefanie helps thoughtful leaders and experts —the “qualified quiets”— find their voice and share their stories with confidence. Guiding speakers from TEDx stages to boardroom presentations to create authentic connections and lasting impact.

As an author of 2 books on communication and a community builder through Vox Talks, she is dedicated to amplifying authentic voices and empowering remarkable individuals to inspire others.

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