Confident speaking: lean into your words

Written By Stefanie Van Moen

Have you ever noticed how confident speakers command a room? It’s not just their posture or delivery—it’s how they own their words. By speaking with conviction, they transform ordinary messages into unforgettable ones.

The Power of Ownership

When you say, “I think this might work…”, it sounds hesitant. Contrast that with, “Based on my experience, this will work.” The difference? Confidence.

Real-World Examples

  1. Steve Jobs
    Jobs didn’t say, “I think this product is revolutionary.” He said, “This is the best product we’ve ever made.” His certainty inspired belief.

  2. Serena Williams
    When discussing her goals, she doesn’t hedge. She says, “I will win,” not “I hope to win.”

Tips to lean into your words

  • Replace phrases like “I think” with “I believe.”

  • Use declarative statements: “What I know for sure is…”

  • Share personal insights: “In my experience…”

In conclusion

Confidence isn’t about arrogance; it’s about trusting your perspective. The more you practice owning your words, the more others will trust you.

 

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Stefanie Van Moen

With a background in speech and language therapy, Stefanie helps thoughtful leaders and experts —the “qualified quiets”— find their voice and share their stories with confidence. Guiding speakers from TEDx stages to boardroom presentations to create authentic connections and lasting impact.

As an author of 2 books on communication and a community builder through Vox Talks, she is dedicated to amplifying authentic voices and empowering remarkable individuals to inspire others.

https://www.voxconsult.be/
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